“Men like daft girls, act like a bit of an airhead around him”. Say what? That was the advice of a married friend after telling her I had been talking to a man but wasn’t entirely sure where it was going. I protested that it wasn’t me and surely that’s got to be considered a bit manipulative. She tried to ease my fears on this: “It’s just what men like”.
I didn’t heed this advice but interestingly it has come up, more than once, from well meaning people. I’ve been told that I come across too independent to the point that a man will wonder why I need him. But I don’t understand this. I really don’t. Why would I be relying on a man I’m merely getting to know? Surely he would know that if I’m into him, talking to him, getting to know him that I’m interested in a relationship and once solid then yes, I have no trouble in placing my burdens on the broad shoulders of my man to be.
Be more feminine when you speak to them, another gem. I half wonder if my friends have bugged my phone, analysed the calls and circled all the things I do wrong. Even if they did, it’s not like I tuck away a testicle as I talk farts or superchargers with blokes I like…..so what exactly is being feminine?