A couple recent encounters with some mildly bitter men had me thinking if, as women, we’re too harsh in our judgements of them in the Muslim “get to know you for marriage” world or indeed any dating capacity?
When I scour over bloke’s profiles, a lot of what comes up is; “no time-wasters”, “no gold diggers”, “nobody who still carries their baggage from the past”. I tend to always swipe left. It screams of a negative man who has clearly been bitten in the past and now feels the need to place a “no cold callers” type of sticker on his dating/marriage profile. It’s akin to me writing, “no man whores” on mine. It’s common sense.
But am I being too judgemental? Do they have valid reasons for writing these types of comments on their profiles. Are we women doing the same to blokes as we often complain they do to us?
I’ve always imagined it to be pretty easy for the guys so I’m intrigued to hear from men about their rishta/marriage hunt and how their online or otherwise experiences tend to go. What seems to be the common theme, if there is one, when getting to know a woman? No holds barred but what are your species looking for?!