A question prompted by the last journalist that interviewed me (that sounds way more pompous than it should given I’ve been interviewed a total of….3 times) had me thinking about the reasons for why I don’t write under my real name. Her question: “Why do you continue to write this blog?”. My answer: “It’s a platform for me to express my feelings but I hope the blog also shows that we (women) aren’t meek creatures who wither away after traumas, splits, difficulties but we empower ourselves and carry on”.
The journalist commented on how she wanted to write about empowered women so my answer was perfect for her article. That got me thinking; if I was really an empowered women, why am I not writing under my real name? What stops me from revealing my superhuman identity…?
I don’t particularly care if people work out who I am. Nobody has actually approached me about it except those whom I have told as well as the odd family member whom I’ve offended (I’m sure they’ve moved past it as they continue to enjoy reading the blog). I’m well aware though that more people than that know about it particularly from some of the comments that get left.
Would I have the same freedom that I allow myself now, if I came out? As it stands, I write about anything and everything. I don’t hold back on much and most of my post split life is on this blog. Coming from a small town, it’s great gossip fodder.
I don’t have to second guess myself. This isn’t like Facebook where I take a moment to think before I post something, wondering if it’s appropriate or if anybody will get upset. I don’t worry too much about offending anybody on the blog due to the preconceived notion that I am somewhat anonymous.
The biggest reason I probably never wrote under my name however was that I never wanted my blog to be seen as a means through which I was gaining some sort of retribution. Essentially I’ve never wanted my ex to become the victim in all of this.
But lately, I’ve been thinking about it. I’m not ashamed of anything I write about. So why shouldn’t I write under my real name? Fellow bloggers who write under pseudonyms, what’s your reasons and would you ever consider coming out the incognito closet?