….Misyar. Literal translation I believe is “traveller’s marriage”. I like to translate it as a “no strings attached” marriage. To me, it’s just a slightly bent version of the Shia Mutaa (temporary) marriage.
About a year ago, I was asked if I would ever consider entering into one. Having never heard of it, Google, once again was my friend. A Misyar marriage can be defined as an official marriage contract between a man and a woman, with the condition that the spouses give up one, two or several of their rights by their own free will. My initial reaction was to take offence, a natural one I think. It sounded leery, creepy and just wrong.
Fast forward a year and I actually don’t think it’s as bad as it sounds. Hold on, hold on….hear me out. Rather than take it from the guy’s perspective, take it from the woman’s. Essentially, you end up with a boyfriend type thing without a lot of the pains that go with a marriage.
Pros; booty calls (he’s yours, not necessarily you his!), emotional support, knight in shining armour support and a bit of the all important love thrown in……if you pick wisely. Forfeit; accommodation and being taken care of in the traditional sense (does that even exist anymore for the vast majority of woman expected to live in this 50/50 culture).
So……………is it really all that bad?