The reactions from men, when they find out why the marriage ended, varies. For the most part, they prefer to gloss over it. I get it, a guy whose interested in you, doesn’t really want to think about you having slept with another guy. I appreciate the ones who show a bit of empathy over the cheating scandal though, nothing major, just a small, “ugh” does me fine. If a guy wants to indulge in a bit of “ex-bashing” on my behalf then I do think it’s rude to stop him.
The best reaction however came from a guy I met called Ozin. Ozin still has a lot to learn about women. I wasn’t too phased by the “atleast your ex found true love” part (I’ve heard that one before). It was the “I wonder what you were doing wrong” bit that started to get under my skin. Then came the line that had me snort coffee out my nose “I can empathise with you, I’ve been cheated on and been the cheat”. Oh dear me, bye Ozin.
I tend to keep the split story short until I get to know them a little better, even then, I stick to the clichèd line of cheating. Unless it’s really going to go somewhere, maybe then it’s only fair to mention the rest. I’ve never got to that stage yet, where I’ve had to mention the abuse or perhaps I haven’t ever felt that it’s necessary.