I am ashamed to admit it but straight out of my breakup, armed with mistress and ex’s twitter accounts, I stalked. I’m not quite sure what I was hoping to find, perhaps some miserable tweets on my ex’s page to make me feel better as though he would realise what a big mistake he had made.
I think social media stalking when you’re fresh out a breakup is somewhat acceptable however it doesn’t mean it’s healthy. I stopped twitter stalking when my ex and his girlfriend cottoned on to what I as doing and started leaving “lovely” messages in their “bio” for me. To give you an example of the type of thing I’m talking about, I quote below:
Mistress: “Money doesn’t buy you a dress sense, you’ll always be FUGLY b**ch. Money talks but it didn’t let you keep a husband did it? #hypocriticalbitch #insidejoke”
To add insult to injury, I had to google what “FUGLY” meant! I think a few of the others were related to being a hypocrite and something along those lines typed nicely on my ex’s bio at one point. Credit to them, it was a fairly good way to keep wounding me and it did. I can acknowledge that I brought that on myself and maybe I did it because I wanted to keep myself there, that pool of misery.
It was when I read the message above that I eventually saw sense and enough was enough. I am proud to admit that I haven’t twitter, facebook (and whatever else there is) stalked in over a year which means that my time as a stalker was probably about 8 months. There has been the occasional message to do with legal papers although unsurprisingly no response so I probably won’t be bothering anymore with direct communication.
People always say social media is a God send and a curse. For me it has been a bit of both. A God send in that the private investigators used it to obtain information needed about my ex’s indiscretions. A curse as I suppose even if they are out of my life now, they are still connected albeit very distantly through this mechanism of wires.