Post divorce, I was somewhat sure it would be unlikely that I would end up with a Pakistani man again. A little time passed before I realised that I was being narrow minded and that I shouldn’t taint all men with the same brush. A little more time passed before I decided that I wasn’t being narrow minded at all but infact my culture is still very much full of narrow minded men. Please note, when I say “Pakistani man”, I mean someone born and brought up in my home country but whose roots are Pakistani. Now, I will generalise a bit here but humour me.
Pakistani men likes:
– “Homely” (enjoys staying at home and won’t focus on career)
– Traditional (will cook a decent curry)
– Family-orientated (code for “will live with in-laws”)
– Degree educated (Should have gone to university and got a good professional degree but at the same time understands that she should be homely after marriage)
– Pretty (well to me and my mama, I have nice eyes and a cute button nose)
Skinny……..Voluptuous (not skinny and not fat but don’t mind admitting that I have some jiggle)
Homely…….Has visions of galavanting around the world to become the next Florence Nightingale.
Traditional……can cook a semi-reasonable curry although hate cooking and prefer to make myself a bowl of cornflakes while I live alone.
– Family orientated….Love family however do not have a burning desire to live with perfectly fit, able bodied in-laws.
– Degree educated…..got that bad boy in the bag but no desire to be “homely” with it.
Three out of six ( and that’s me being somewhat generous with my explanations above). I am a three out of six to the Asian man out there. The last guy I met explained he wanted someone to listen to him and his adventures (I talked too much). The guy before that told me he wanted a stay at home wife (stay at home to do what, I’m not quite sure). The guy before that told me he didn’t want someone westernised (as he eyed me up and down in my oh so sexy maxi dress).
I think it’s time to venture outside of the box.